As a tarot reader and a practicing medium I have to disagree with a lot of this. Firstly, the pressure to forgive can be quite dangerous. If someone feels they want to go down that route, then that’s fine. It may work for them. But for others, it may be the worst possible thing for them. Acceptance also is not the same as forgiveness. Yes you do need to accept what happened but forgiving is absolutely not mandatory. You can pretend the offender is dead and move on. A little resentment (not to the point that you are marinating in it where it’s toxic) is necessary to remind you of the boundaries you need to stay safe. Also compassion only goes so far. I’m sorry but how can one be compassionate towards bullies and abusers who knew what they were doing but chose to be cruel anyway? No amount of trauma gives anyone a free pass to cause deliberate harm. Instead of compassion, they need to be held accountable got their actions. The only thing I agree is the patience part. Yes it’s damn hard but this is a lesson I know I need to master. Acceptance is another but forgiveness and compassion definitely not. I’m sure your intention is not to do this but there is a lot of gaslighting in religious and new age communities regarding forgiveness and has caused trauma abuse survivors a lot of stress and grief. Please stop telling people they need to forgive their offenders so they can move on. Not true at all. Acceptance yes, forgiveness definitely not.