I have a very unusual story with my kids. My son has complex special needs and I’ll just say I was NOT cut out for it so it was best for me to surrender him at 13. We trigger each other which is why it’s best that he is estranged. We aren’t good for each other. I have a very good relationship with my daughter and I am mindful to not repeat the cycle with her. I detailed the situation with my son in an old article. It’s easy to judge me for what I did but those who do should be ashamed as they aren’t in my shoes. https://medium.com/bouncin-and-behavin-blogs/i-gave-up-my-special-needs-son-and-it-was-the-best-decision-ever-a6cebfb97c66