I have cptsd and depression from lots of bullying and scapegoating and as a result I turned into an echoist. I lacked boundaries and became the ultimate people pleaser and didn’t acknowledge my needs but after going through extreme caregiver burnout I broke out of my echoism as it was a huge wake up call for me to once and for all to not only acknowledge my needs but to develop boundaries. So I did, and I no longer do things for others if I don’t want to or legitimately can’t. But here is the thing. Yes I was treated badly for a long time but why would I treat those who never did anything to me the same way? I will be kind on default but I also will treat others accordingly. If you are nice to me, I am nice to you. If you are a jerk to me, I’ll dish that back. It’s amazing how I no longer get bullied.