I respectfully disagree as you don’t need do forgive to move on. How about just working on not caring about the individual while you move on with your life and work on yourself? That’s my objective. And why is it always that the victim is pressured to forgive while the perpetrator walks away scot free? Maybe others view forgiveness differently than I do so semantics do play a role. But to me, forgiveness includes compassion and I’ll dare to say bullies and abusers never deserve compassion regardless of what kind of trauma they have been through because unless there is a severe cognitive or psychological illness to prevent them knowing right from wrong at the end of the day everyone is responsible for their actions. Forgiveness is for a friend who accidentally breaks something of yours and is apologetic about it because they are human. Sitting there full of rage and plotting vengeance is not synonymous with not forgiving a bully or an abuser. And I agree doing that is not healthy. I just focus on myself and what is important to me and literally… f**k everyone else.