I respectfully disagree. You do not need to forgive. Not forgiving also is not synonymous with revenge. The way I do it is pretend that those who hurt me don’t exist. See, forgiveness is actually for the offender because it involves compassion. Offenders do not deserve compassion unless they are severely intellectually disabled or so mentally ill they don’t know right from wrong. No amount of trauma gives anyone a free pass to hurt others. I have cptsd from bullying and abuse and I am responsible for how I treat others. These offenders need to be held accountable for what they do. The other thing about anger and resentment is they serve a purpose (I’m not talking about if it consumes you) but I feel it is healthy to hang onto a bit of both to remind you of the boundaries you need to keep. That’s necessary for me because I spent my life being a people pleaser stuck in the fawn response, or echoism. For some people forgiving works and for others it doesn’t. There is however only one person that I need to work on forgiving which is myself. I have chastised myself enough for allowing myself to take the abuse that I took. I have to work on being compassionate towards myself, and that’s the only person that deserves my compassion in this.