If you have a child with special needs then they will be dependent on you all of the time and that’s bad too. But I no longer have to worry as my son is in a group home and becoming more independent than I ever imagined. He won’t be able to live on his own but he can get by independently otherwise. But I am experiencing this wth my daughter who is 20 and I hope she stays in the nest for a few more years. I would never hold her back though. Kids need to be independent. That goes for kids with special needs too.