I’m dealing with midlife issues and I’m in another rough patch in my marriage. I am all of these things you described but at the same time there is absolutely no one else in my life. The truth is I’ve been a people pleaser all my life and ever since I have been able to recover from it, I’m yearning for my independence so I’m having a hard time right now with it. I am focusing on my trip that I’ll be taking in a month but after that I have to have a long talk with my husband because I’m not happy… however if this point goes hand in hand with the others you pointed out then that would definitely be a red flag. Great article. Sorry I word vomited here but just wanted to point out that I admit I’m doing these things you pointed out but I’m 100% not cheating. I’m just not happy. I’m bored. And I want independence.