I’m sorry you endured this and no, you can’t get over trauma. This is why I hate the term heal from trauma. Yes, you learn to cope and manage it through therapy but you never truly heal. And yes I should also be over the bullying and scapegoating I endured in my youth as everyone did what they could to humiliate me all because I was “different” and “weird” and I should also be over the trauma from chaotic special needs parenting. In other words I need to be “over” my cptsd as someone told me and also to be “over” my depression. So yeah I was never SA but I had other horrible things done and said to me. I think I’d be far more successful if it wasn’t for what the trauma did. And makes my blood boil that those bullies who made my life hell are doing well and I have to deal with the consequences they caused me. The next person who tells me to forgive them will get a throat punch.