My husband and I are sadly roommates as we are very incompatible now and I admit lots of resentments have festered over the years as we both failed to communicate so I am conveniently married. Hes a good man and he tries but we are no longer a match. Why are we together? Finances are a big issue but leaving him would be very messy as he has serious abandonment issues. He literally becomes ghost white and shakes badly if I mention the idea of leaving him. Do I feel trapped? Sometimes but at least he gives me space. I am at a point in my life too where I don’t even really want to be married as I’ve given myself to others for decades. I need to focus on me now.