Ooh this is a hot one for me as I respectfully disagree. I believe in taking accountability for one’s actions despite any trauma that one has endured. I have cptsd and depression but that does not give me the ticket to bully and abuse others. I am fully responsible for what I do and how I treat others. Everyone is responsible for their actions regardless of what they have endured unless there is a severe intellectual disability or severe mental illness where one doesn’t know right from wrong. But I also understand there is no right way of healing as of finding compassion for abusers works for you then go with it. I’m better off with standing my ground in my beliefs, and forgetting their existence and moving forward.