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Think Before Telling Someone To Get Out Of The Victim Mentality
Let’s talk about what the victim mentality is..
When someone finds excuses for not improving their situation and themselves, it's easy to say that they are stuck in the victim mindset.
And even though it can be true, meaning it can be said about those who refuse to better their situation and complain instead because things didn’t go their way — it’s not fair to say this about everyone who appears that way.
Telling someone who genuinely is struggling with their mental health and is in a terrible situation they can’t escape that they are in the victim mindset is toxic positivity-ish.
Let’s go back to when I dealt with severe caregiver burnout and struggled with my mental health.
If anyone told me I desperately needed to lose weight which they did, there was no way I could have been in the mindset to get there. Yes, I was almost 300 lbs. I was comfortable eating, and I’m sure the skyrocketing cortisol levels contributed to that too.
I was trapped at the time and dangerously depressed. If anyone told me that I was in the victim mindset, it only made me feel worse about my situation.
It was also invalidating. However, at the same time, I put an end to it when I was able to by relinquishing…
