Ummm ok so what do you recommend? Sticking around with those who are abusive to you because if you don’t, you are “selfish?” Really? I used to be an echoist where I put my needs on the back burner, as well as self respect (I had none) and I had zero boundaries and allowed others to bully me. Well let’s just say that certain things caused me to break out of it and yes, I actually kinda like being “selfish” and you’ll bet I’ll be keeping “toxic” people out of my life. Having boundaries are actually kinda cool because no one dares to bully me anymore and gets away with it, and I discovered something shocking.. my needs are just as important as everyone else’s 😳 wow! Oh and you can actually be both empathetic and selfish. Yeah, crazy huh?